Released Love™

Ever let a puppy out of a pen? See him wiggle uncontrollably?

Ever watch kids leave the school building at the end of the day?

Ever see a racehorse trapped in the starting gate when the gun finally goes off?

Situations where we feel we do not have the freedom to fully express ourselves, our exuberance for life, are like prisons to us. Each and every one of us knows that feeling of liberation and joy when we are set free.

Love is like that puppy, those kids, and that racehorse. It wants out.  It wants to run!

Ever watch a five-year-old dance in and out of puddles after a rain?

Ever hear someone singing in the shower in his/her best virtuoso voice?

Ever do your own adaptation of a victory dance when you thought no one was watching, just because you accomplished something you really wanted to?

What we long for, what we crave, is to be able to fully express—-especially our love. We used to release it whenever we felt it.

Remember? Two year olds do it. They just come up to you and grab you around the knees and hold on while they say their version of “I love you.”

It’s available.

It is what everyone wants, but –

Is afraid to go for it

Doesn’t know how to go for it, and/or

Has no model of others demonstrating it.

The full potential of a relationship is realized when both partners feel completely free to express their love.  Withheld love is worse than no love at all. What if not releasing love is what warps and suppresses the life out of our unions?

Consider this: You offer out of love. Maybe a vacation together. Maybe a foot rub. Maybe sex. Maybe a suggestion of what to do about that cold they have. Maybe they don’t accept. Do you keep releasing or do you hold back a little? Decreasing releasing distorts our expression of love. It begins to be expressed as irritation, apathy, anger, power struggles, competition instead of collaboration, sadness, unhealthy bodies, and a host of other twists. It’s still all love being expressed—but it’s the race horse kicking and bucking behind the gate—our love is manifesting in ways that don’t take us where we want to be.

What if those emotions we have labeled as negative are just misrepresentations of the love we feel but have not released? What if we release our love just because we can? (Like when we were two.) What if we release our love without wondering how the other will respond? What if we release our love because it feeds us power and replenishes our body and soul whether they return it or not? (Do you think that racehorse really cares if he wins? Or, does he just want to run?) What if courageously releasing our love right when we feel it is, in fact, the only way to experience it?

Hmmmm….

Release: Let somebody or something go; make public; make something available; relief; free; announcement; discharge; liberate; let loose; leave go of; stop clutching something.

Antonym: hold

Releasing love – it’s why elderly people with pets live longer than the ones who don’t.

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